If you want people to know you, you have to know yourself first.
I’m only out to some of my friends and family. One side of my family I’m not comfortable telling. Their small minds and insistence that I “get a boyfriend” make it feel impossible. I fear their potentially offensive reactions and opinions. Maybe one day they’ll be more open. Until then, I’m only halfway out. It helped coming out to my moms because they understand me. They accept me no matter what, don’t insist I date boys, and never call it a phase.